I have the pleasure and privilege of knowing a wonderful
lady! Lisa Johnson is the homeschooling mother
of ten, grandmother of one and an example to all of us of what it takes to make
a happy family. I honestly don’t know
how she does it! Fortunately, she’s
willing to share a bit of how she keeps her marriage solid amid all the chaos. I read her tips on Facebook and asked if I
could share with you. They all reached
me personally and helped me to remember how precious and important my marriage
is. Maybe one day she’ll write a book!
Tip 1: Be the
person you'd like to be married to. If you'd like a little more grace for your
faults, give a little more grace for theirs. If you need more love and
understanding, give more love and understanding to your spouse.
Tip 2: Keep in mind that you too were sexier,
funnier, skinnier, more romantic, more fun etc. when you were dating. Take some
time to find those two people and reconnect. (Trust me, they're still in there
somewhere.)
Tip 3: Nobody is perfect. Don't let the world at
large find out about your spouse's imperfections via your mouth. "The
heart of her husband trusts in her..." Prov. 31:11 " Husbands, love
your wives as Christ loves the church..." Eph 5:25.
Tip 4: Make it a point to give your spouse the best
of you: the best of your smiles, the best of your touch, the best of your
(good) attitude, the best of your laughter, the best of your words, etc. Don't
always bring them what's left of you after the world has sucked all the life
out of you.
Tip 5: Greet your spouse with a kiss. It's a mood enhancer. Science says that touch releases endorphins, so you begin to associate seeing your spouse with a pleasant feeling. Scripture says "Greet one another with a holy kiss" Rom. 16:16, so its scriptural. Practicality says that you can't say stupid things with your lips otherwise occupied. Voila! Mood enhanced!
Tip 6: Love.." Bears all things, believes all
things, hopes all things, endures all things." 1 Cor.13:7 Choose to
believe the best. Listen to who you know your spouse to be, not necessarily the
words. Sometimes it is hard to find the right words to express yourself. Some
folks find it hard to communicate with words at all. Grace, grace.
Very good tips!
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Such a awesome tips! Perfectly true!
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