You may not remember, but a few months ago I posted about my oldest son playing with fire. Well, sorta, he was smoking. Literally and figuratively playing with fire. At the time, I called him on it and he swore up and down he wasn't a smoker. Eventually, when caught red-handed he said, "Mom, I smoke, but I'm not a smoker."
All that has changed. He's now an official smoker and he hates it. Yes, we warned him of the dangers of addiction, but as many of you know, older teens don't always want to listen.
Now, he's realized it's a very expensive, very unappealing habit. The problem is it's very hard to quit. I sympathize with him as much as I can - short of caffeine, I can't speak to addiction. I don't know what it's like to have a substance have control over my life.
I do, very much, want to help him quit! I'm very worried about his longterm health.
We had a deal - he said he was going cold turkey and didn't need help. He agreed that if he smoked another cigarette, he'd let me make a doctor's appointment and we'd try to get him some help quitting. We did try the nicorette gum, but he says it makes him feel funny so he won't chew it.
True to his word, he texted me to make an appointment, and he's going Monday. I wish I knew the right thing to do to remove this issue from his life. I'm a mom - I want to fix it. I'm the daughter of a Marine - Just Do It! But, it's not that simple.
Have you ever had to deal with stopping smoking? What worked for you? What didn't? What advice can you offer a mom who truly wants to see her son shake this habit before it becomes a lifelong burden he can't escape?