We’ve had quite a week! My sister’s family has been out, and we have had a blast. Daily the pool has been filled with kids. We’ve had a graduation with a big party afterwards, bowling, Frisbee golf, eaten out several times, a trip to Discovery Place and IMAX, an excursion to the Reed Gold Mine, and fun at Dan Nicholas Park. It should be a kids dream.
But… Tomorrow my middle son has the chance to go to the local amusement park with friends and we’ve said no. We have good reasons:
2. There’s a lot to get done around here.
3. It’s my hubby’s last day off.
4. We’re nervous about him riding with a teenage driver.
5. It’s EXPENSIVE.
So. We’ve gone directly from feast to famine. Suddenly, we’re unreasonable, no-fun parents. I can accept that. There’s a part of my heart that understands how much fun it sounds like to go. But… There’s also a part that says – “Hey, you’ve had a blast this week. Give a little!”
The hubby even offered to take him to the park after the doctor’s appointment and pick him back up. Not good enough. I know he’s just mad.
Parenting is a challenge, constantly. It’s been a rough week for hubby as he’s been in altercations with all three teens. Not the best week before Father’s Day.
I've come to realize - it is as important for kids to hear "no" as it is for us to provide for them. If all they ever hear is "yes", the expectation is life is like that. I want - I get. We all know that's not how it rolls. We're working on "no" one situation at a time. It doesn't feel good for anyone, but it's a reality teens especially need to learn.
Are you good at saying no?